It is especially hard when one or more of our enemies used to be friends and even names the name of Jesus. But in following Jesus we’re called to love our enemies, to bless those who curse us, to do good to them.
I find that I have to forgive over and over again people for the wrongs done to me. When I do there comes a kind of release to live well in God’s will. But before that there is struggle and bondage, and surely sin. I am lashing out, or perhaps just deeply hurt.
But there is no escape. And this is the way of following Jesus. Of being “perfect” as our heavenly Father is perfect, merciful in the same way he is. It must become a way of life for us.
Sometimes you simply have to do something for the heart to follow. We rightly say with Jesus that it is out of our hearts that evil thoughts come, as well as the words we speak. But when I’m repenting of a wrong attitude, I find that as I begin to pray for someone, I experience a kind of release. I pray for their well being. Seeking to love them, while under no illusions that I am in any way their friend. Yet I’m to love them as if they were a friend. I’m not to hold anything against them.
Yes, it is written his commands are not burdensome, for whatever is born of God overcomes the world, and this is the victory that overcomes the world, even our faith. And yet it is the way of the cross. Jesus didn’t find the will of the Father easy for him in the Garden of Gethsemane. Of course what he was facing as well as doing was unique. But we’re to share in his sufferings. I think the point of the word in 1 John 5 is that by faith we can obey God’s commands, that they don’t weigh us down in the sense of us not being able to do them. Even when they go against the grain and cut right across the heart.
Loving one’s enemies means being willing to befriend them. And wanting reconciliation through God’s reconciliation in Jesus. It is a part of our following Jesus.
And so we take the way of the cross in following Jesus. We are weak in him, so that his strength might be at work in and through us. Together in Jesus for the world.