I wonder why following in the way of Christ, in the way of the faith seems often so counter-cultural. There are those times when it does seem to run with the grain of culture at least among many. But when you study early Christianity and the world in which it inhabited, you find that some practices of society were eschewed by the church. Men having boys for pederasty, one such example. The early Christians were looked on with askance, considered different indeed in a world in which both the life the followers of Jesus lived as well as what they prohibited seemed far fetched to say the least.
Of course we have to turn back to our Bibles as well as pay attention to the tradition of the church on various subjects, including probably the hottest subject of the day, homosexuality, and specifically, gay marriage. The discussion will go on and while it is interesting to see how it is shaking out in American society now, one in which 75% still identify themselves as Christian, and how it will take shape in the future, the question remains for the faithful: Just how are we to be counter-cultural in our world today? Should people look at our lives and maybe shake their heads, seeing us as strange at least? This will take discipline in holy living on our part, I would think. One thing for sure in the mix of things: We Christians or followers of Christ are called to be counter-cultural, being different at the heart and core of our beings, our actions (and reactions) different as well.
Therefore, since Christ suffered in his body, arm yourselves also with the same attitude, because whoever suffers in the body is done with sin. As a result, they do not live the rest of their earthly lives for evil human desires, but rather for the will of God. For you have spent enough time in the past doing what pagans choose to do—living in debauchery, lust, drunkenness, orgies, carousing and detestable idolatry. They are surprised that you do not join them in their reckless, wild living, and they heap abuse on you. But they will have to give account to him who is ready to judge the living and the dead.