The words of the reckless pierce like swords,
but the tongue of the wise brings healing.
I recently heard a veteran being asked if he thought all veterans have PTSD (Post Traumatic Stress Disorder). His answer was something like, to one degree or another, yes, and that it’s one thing to think of war, and quite another to actually be in a combat situation.
We have often wounded others with our words. Hopefully we’ve helped others heal through words as well. We’ve all been on the giving and receiving end of not helping, in fact harming, but hopefully on the giving and receiving end of words which are helpful and healing.
We have to be careful, because it can be not just what we say which can hurt, but what we don’t say. We can fail to provide the timely, needed word of encouragement. And we can be just as expressive non-verbally as verbally. Sometimes a silence is indicative of a slow burn. Our attitude can speak volumes, good or bad. It’s not without merit when people say that so-and-so has an attitude.
Given in the right spirit, carefully said, correction can be helpful, and not correcting unhelpful.
Wounds from a friend can be trusted,
but an enemy multiplies kisses.
It’s the heart that matters. As Jesus said:
…the mouth speaks what the heart is full of.
So if we’re to do well with our words, we’ll have to watch our heart.
Above all else, guard your heart,
for everything you do flows from it.
It is best to measure one words carefully. And in so doing, one might find it’s best to be silent.
Even fools are thought wise if they keep silent,
and discerning if they hold their tongues.
…many words mark the speech of a fool.
Sin is not ended by multiplying words,
but the prudent hold their tongues.
We have to be careful today, because there’s a war of words in our culture. It would be easy just to retreat and not say a word, or get into the never ending volley of words. Of course, see social media. Instead we need to prayerfully consider when we might speak up, and just what we might say. For the gospel, first and foremost, and also for what is good, right, and just. In and through Jesus.