Those conflicts and disputes among you, where do they come from? Do they not come from your cravings that are at war within you? You want something and do not have it, so you commit murder. And you covet something and cannot obtain it, so you engage in disputes and conflicts. You do not have because you do not ask. You ask and do not receive because you ask wrongly, in order to spend what you get on your pleasures. Adulterers! Do you not know that friendship with the world is enmity with God? Therefore whoever wishes to be a friend of the world becomes an enemy of God. Or do you suppose that the scripture speaks to no purpose? Does the spirit that God caused to dwell in us desire envy? But God gives all the more grace; therefore it says,
“God opposes the proud
but gives grace to the humble.”Submit yourselves therefore to God. Resist the devil, and he will flee from you. Draw near to God, and he will draw near to you. Cleanse your hands, you sinners, and purify your hearts, you double-minded. Lament and mourn and weep. Let your laughter be turned into mourning and your joy into dejection. Humble yourselves before the Lord, and he will exalt you.
There are certainly a number of things we can take from this passage, but a certain basic is the need for humility and honesty, or we might well say, honesty and humility. You can’t have one without the other. There’s the most basic need to be totally honest before God and others, honest with ourselves. Only then can come the needed humility.
Humility is not a kind of brow beating, put down of ourselves. It’s nothing more than understanding the truth about ourselves and it can honestly come only in the light of Christ, or in God’s light to us. We’ll remain in darkness, in our own darkness, in pride and all that is related to that, apart from that light. Only the light exposes the darkness and what’s in the dark.
Truth is key here. We want to get at the bottom of what is troubling us as individuals and as community. As we begin to get there, a response of humility in totally owning up to our wrong is crucial. From there, we’ll find God’s help to live well in the grace God has for us.